No, You’re Not Okay. You’re Sick and You Need Help.

And Jesus answered them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I have not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance.” – Luke 5:31-32 (ESV) (Bold added)

If Jesus didn’t have a problem calling us sick and sinners, why do we have such a hard time accepting that fact?

While we are all well aware of the fact of our fallen nature, we are falling prey to a different rhetoric, a different law being at work in the world, one that says the exact opposite of that truth.

Looking around me today, especially on social media circles, I see society bombarding people with a new wave of messages on the likes of “You’re perfectly okay just the way you are, don’t ever change.” And while this stems from a really good intention, which is to make everyone feel like they belong and help them heal from the stigmas of bullying and other types of abuse that minorities have undergone in the past, allow me to show you why society isn’t doing you any favor by convincing you that being accepted and loved while at the same time being sick and in need of help are mutually exclusive.

When you are told that nothing is wrong with you while you know you are struggling with a certain issue in your life, two things are happening that are at odds with each other, thus making the whole process counterproductive. The first thing that happens is that your sense of belonging and acceptance is being affirmed, which is a good thing; and the second thing that happens is that the problem you have is left undealt with, which is a bad thing. + 1 – 1 = 0. So you really haven’t made any progress at all.

Let’s say you have a weight problem (for the sake of the argument). You’ve struggled with that your whole life and people have called you names because of that and others have made fun of you, belittled you, discriminated against you… you name it. You’ve really had it with this, and no matter how much you try to lose weight, you find yourself relapsing every once in a while, bringing you back to your former state; or maybe even worse than you were before. Then one day, someone comes along and tells you, ‘You’re beautiful just the way you are; don’t ever change’. At first you have a hard time believing them, but as more people start telling you the same thing you begin believing what they’re saying because majority rules. Next thing you know, you’re struggling less and less with your weight problem because society doesn’t have a problem with your problem anymore but guess what, your problem is still there, and if you leave it undealt with long enough, eventually it will cause you health problems. So what society is doing is that on one hand it’s affirming your sense of belonging and acceptance which you’ve never felt before because of your weight problem, but on the other hand it’s letting you forget about your problem or even worse, embrace it as part of your identity when you should be dealing with it for your own benefit. Equating beauty with acceptance and belonging, society is making you take your eyes off of the real problem which is the threat your weight is posing to your health, and make you think your problem is solved because you are now accepted and loved.

The reason society is affirming your sense of belonging and acceptance comes from a good place, because everyone is worthy of unconditional love and acceptance — there’s no question about that and no one should ever be made to feel less than that or discriminated against under any circumstance. But the way it’s being offered to you is counterfeit. Instead of giving you grace to deal with the problem at the root level –at what the real cause behind your weight problem is, whether it is physical, emotional or spiritual– society is letting you forget about that by intoxicating you with a false sense of belonging and acceptance, and soon enough you’ll start identifying yourself with your problem (which is no longer a problem to you), because you’ve believed the lie that this is who you are.

We don’t tell people who are injured or are physically or mentally ill that there’s nothing wrong with them, instead we take steps and help them take measures to bring them to healing and restoration, whether through the form of hospitalization, medical treatment, rehabilitation etc… But how come we don’t do the same with people who are spiritually ill?

How come we don’t look at people and say, ‘No, I’m sorry, you’re not okay, you’re stealing, you’re lying, you’re committing adultery, you’re being sexually immoral (having sex outside of marriage / practicing homosexuality / even lusting with your eyes after people), you’re committing idolatry (following other gods / worshiping yourself), you’re getting drunk, you’re being a reviler (even being a bully), you’re being a swindler, you’re blaspheming; and for any or all of these reasons, you are not okay! Repent (turn back) and come to Jesus. You need him to help you.’?

Is it because we are afraid of offending people and have been intimidated by the trending lie that we can’t love people and disagree with their lifestyle at the same time?

Is it because we know we are spiritually ill as well in our own way and “if the blind leads the blind, both of them will fall into the pit”, so who are we to judge?

Isn’t that what society is perpetuating today, that no one is perfect so you better not judge and tolerate everyone and approve of their lifestyle?

Jesus modeled something different when he hung out with sinners. He modeled acceptance and love while at the same time making a clear distinction between right and wrong. He didn’t say ‘I came to hang out with sinners to show them there’s no difference between me and them so that they can feel good about themselves and stay the way they are’. Instead he said, ‘I came to call sinners to repentance.’ (Luke 5:32) So a) Jesus spent time with sinners, thus modeling love and acceptance, b) He called them sinners (and sick), thus drawing a line between right and wrong, well and sick, c) He came to call them to repentance, thus stating that there needs to be a change of heart, mind and direction.

Sometimes we feel we want to love people more than Jesus did, while we know that there is no greater love than the love that Jesus showed for us (John 15:13). And if people back then didn’t have a problem admitting they were sinners or didn’t feel offended when Jesus called them that, then maybe we should do the same.

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” – Proverbs 27:6 (ESV)

We have a word for when someone tells you something nice that isn’t true about you. It’s called flattery. Flattery can lead to many great evils because it deceives you into believing something about yourself that you’ve been yearning to hear but its purpose is solely for its giver’s own interests. Someone who loves you will tell you the truth no matter how much it hurts.

The world doesn’t want you to change, because the world doesn’t love you.

The world wants you to stay the way you are, because the spirit of the world is at war with God, and “whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.” (James 4:4)

I don’t know about you, but I’d rather live in a society of people that are offended because they’ve come face to face with the truth about themselves than live in a messed up and dysfunctional society of people who feel good about themselves and have no intention to change.

I’ll end with this: Maybe it’s time we take a good look in the mirror and see ourselves as we truly are, sick people in need of a physician and sinners in need of a savior.

Repent. He is at the door.


Author: Valiant Sheep

I live my life for the one who gave it to me. Musician from the age of 5, I write music with a message of hope and purpose in order to help people get in touch with their life giver. I also compose music for film, a lot of which you can check out on this website.

3 thoughts on “No, You’re Not Okay. You’re Sick and You Need Help.”

  1. I agree with you on the fact that being honest to “sick” people, regardless of the negative effects that often come along with such honesty, might prove beneficial to the person being addressed on the long run. It works in cases of tangible nature where clearly a problem exists, whether physical or psychological.

    My problem with this article is forcing unworthiness on yourself in order to appeal to a creator and redeem a sin which he gracefully gifted you in the first place. Are we created sick and commanded to be well? Now that, in my honest opinion, is a tangible evidence of self-loathing that I believe should be treated with psychology, not with ancient texts.

    “While we are all well aware of the fact of our fallen nature, we are falling prey to a different rhetoric, a different law being at work in the world, one that says the exact opposite of that truth.”

    Please, keep your “fallen nature” belief to yourself and avoid generalization with sensitive terms like “truth”. YOUR truth appears in YOUR mirror, not mine.

    So here’s my 2 cents: “Yes, I am okay. You’re sick and you need help”. Please stop calling people sick because your belief system teaches so.

    Oh hi, it’s Dany. Been a while 😉


    1. Hello Dany,

      Reading your comment on my article was such a nice surprise to me 🙂

      Let me first thank you for reading my article and secondly for taking the time to comment. I really appreciate that.
      However I can sense from the tone of your comment that you got offended somewhere and maybe reading this article was like someone putting their finger on a wound of yours, maybe some area in your life that is sensitive to you. You seem to approve of saying the truth to someone with something of a “tangible nature where clearly a problem exists, whether physical or psychological”, which means to me that you disregard any spiritual nature of a problem as intangible. But this confuses me a bit because, where do you draw the line between tangible and intangible when it comes to psychological problems? What qualifies a problem to be something tangible thus earning merit to be told the truth about? And more importantly what qualifies a problem to be called a problem in the first place? What are we basing our judgment on? Do we have a clear understanding of right and wrong or is it all just relative? Or is it modern psychology that dictates what goes and what doesn’t?

      The second thing that is confusing me in your comment is, where do you stand? You say my article is “forcing unworthiness on yourself in order to appeal to a creator and redeem a sin which he gracefully gifted you in the first place. Are we created sick and commanded to be well?”. Do you believe in a creator? If you do then you must acknowledge intangibility as a factor, because the creator is spirit, which is intangible. If you do believe in a creator, is he according to your comment someone who doesn’t regard you unless you appeal to him with unworthiness? And if you appeal to him to “redeem you of a sin that he gracefully gifted you with”, then what makes it a sin to begin with if it’s his gift for you? Is it sin because he calls it sin (yet creates you with it thus making him an inconsistent and disintegrous creator who’s really not just), or is it sin because of ancient texts that say it is sin but are irrelevant now, or could it be that it’s sin because he calls it sin and you struggle with it (knowing deep down that it is sin) because you have a fallen nature that he wants to redeem?

      No, we are not created sick and commanded to be well. We are not created sinners and commanded to be righteous. We have sought out sin and sickness for ourselves by turning away from God and he’s there lovingly and patiently stretching out his arms for us to come back to him in order to heal us.

      Truth is truth. Truth is not relative. It’s not based on a belief system that I adhere to. My belief system is based on the truth that “God gave us eternal life, and this life is in his Son.” (1 John 5:11). If this offends you then it should be clue enough for you that it’s touching on something sensitive in your life. God gave you eternal life in Jesus, Dany. What is it you’re holding on to so dearly in order to refuse his offer? Is it really worth it?


      1. Believe me I’m not easily offended generally, especially not by an internet blog wrote by a friend. So no wounds or fingers need be involved in this discussion rest assured.

        Now, to the matter at hand. No, I don’t believe in a creator, simply because it’s an extraordinary concept which lacks the needed extraordinary evidence to validate it. Let’s assume for the sake of the argument that there is a creator. Better yet, a creator who can communicate with his/her creation. Let’s make it more interesting: a creator know to humans in many names, forms and shapes across hundreds of man made religions yet, again, for the sake of this discussion, we’ll dismiss every other “theory of god” and stick to the christian god, whom you worship and have access to his kingdom via confession of sins to his human incarnation as his son, who he himself in collaboration with his father and a holy spirit created us humans with our innate natural drive for discovery and wonder, condemns us for seeking knowledge from a tree with a talking snake lurking about, which he (or they) planted there in the first place. Now that’s an offer I’d gladly refuse.

        You can get yourself from the possibility of the existence of a creator, to the belief in a talking snake, but don’t go about preaching it as absolute truth or moral standard. Our modern moral standards, which are still being fine tuned, are the results of countless generations of human experience and collaborative understanding of our survival on this planet. We wouldn’t have gotten to Mount Sinai if we kept killing each other right? That’s one commandment off the stones. The rest are as easily dismissed. As for absolute truth, we as a species are still on a journey of discovery and wonder, our “god given” nature, and we are far from fully understanding our place in the universe. But hey, that’s the beauty of it. Acknowledging our ignorance of the natural world to seek knowledge through scientific revelations is far more interesting and wonderful than surrendering and saying magic did it.

        So what I am holding on to so dearly in order to refuse the christian god’s offer? My critical faculties.

        And it’s damn worth it.


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