Everybody faces rejection sometime in their life. Everybody is looking for a place where they can belong, somewhere to call “home”.
From early age, kids in school will start forming groups based on common interest and similarities. At recess you can identify the popular kids, the geeks, the nerds, the bubble heads, the bullies, the jocks, and even the ones who don’t belong in any of these groups who form a group of their own a.k.a the outcasts. And these groups by nature while presenting a haven for insiders are generally very hostile to outsiders trying to get their way in.
After school comes university and faced with the loss of their comfort zone, people will try absolutely to find a new one to ease their way through the 3-5-year stay in this completely new environment. Social clubs, chess clubs, debate clubs, sports teams, human rights activists, prayer groups, tree huggers, fraternity, sorority are all ones of many terms that will echo throughout one’s academic journey.
And although there’s nothing wrong in finding a group of people where one can be comfortable among and share common interests and activities, beliefs or unbeliefs, likes and dislikes, the problem lies in trying to find one’s sense of belonging in these so called shelters. The reason is because we simply don’t belong here. No one belongs here.
We all try to find acceptance whether we admit it or not. We look for it in people and if we don’t find it in people we’ll try to find it in other things. Everything you run to for acceptance will become “home” for you. Get a group of people who were rejected for the same reasons as you and you form your own community where everyone is accepted, loved and most importantly not judged.
But the truth is, you will never find life in these refuges, because simply, you were not created to belong there. You are not meant to find your sense of belonging and identity in people groups, sports, music, science, books, philosophy, religion, meditation, LGBT, work, drugs, alcohol, cabarets and everything you run to when you’re rejected, not belonging, tired or distressed. Everything will fade away eventually.
“If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.” (John 15:19 ESV)
We are all pilgrims in this land, heading towards our eternal destination, a city that is not made by human hands, a city that has foundations, whose designer and builder is God (Hebrews 11:10). But unless we realize this and live upon it we will keep looking to belong in places that will not give us life and miss our eternal dwelling.
“For we know that if the tent that is our earthly home is destroyed, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens. For in this tent we groan, longing to put on our heavenly dwelling, if indeed by putting it on we may not be found naked.” (2 Corinthians 5:1-3 ESV)